Are you (or do you know) a bride to be? Changing your last name, finding a home, and leaving your family are big steps every new couple faces. In this heartfelt episode, you'll learn how to navigate the emotional journey of marriage, changing your name, and blending families with grace and confidence.

Mary Alessi sits down with her daughter Gaby Alessi (soon to be Calatayud!) for a candid conversation about the transition from being "the baby" of the family to building your own new household. They discuss what it means to leave behind your family identity, embrace a new last name, and honor both sets of parents while cleaving to your spouse.

You’ll discover:

How to balance honoring your family roots while embracing your new family with your spouse

Why changing your last name can be harder (and more meaningful) than you expect

Common struggles for parents and daughters during wedding planning and the move toward independence

Biblical principles on leaving and cleaving, and why both sides of the family experience growing pains

Practical ways to blend two strong family cultures without losing your sense of self

The importance of building your own foundation and traditions as a couple

Real marriage wisdom on handling fears, decision-making, and staying united through change

Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or a parent watching your child start their own journey, this episode is full of relatable stories and timeless advice. Mary and Gaby share laughs, get vulnerable about the “grieving” that comes with a name change, and celebrate the hope and beauty of building a new legacy.

00:00 Coming Up in This Episode
07:02 Gaby's Updates
12:21 Positive Family Pride Perspective
19:47 New Identity Through Marriage
23:09 Honoring Family Legacy
32:11 Should You Take Your Husband's Name?
38:49 Struggles: Dependence vs. Allegiance
48:45 Couch Placement Conflict
57:03 Marriage Reflections: 35 Years In

Don’t miss out on the tips for managing wedding expectations, joining two families, and creating your future together—even if it means some tears over last names and a few disagreements over home renovations!

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